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Dear M Girl,

My best friend and I love to hang out at the pool during the summer and we want to be able to see each other during the school year because we go to different schools, but my mom won't let me hang out with her! She thinks my best friend is a very bad influence on me! How can I convince my mom that my best friend is not a bad influence on me? Please help!!!!

-Cdub12

Hey Cdub12,

I know you may not understand why your mom says you two can't hang out, but she probably has a good reason. Sometimes our friends get caught up with the wrong crowd and your mom doesn't want you following in her footsteps. If you and your mom work together, you can probably make a difference to your BFF and prevent her from getting into serious trouble. Ask your mom if your BFF can come over to your house to hang out -- that way your mom could pop in and check on you occasionally. It might not seem like the perfect situation, but at least you'd get to spend time together during the school year. Let me know how it goes!

XOXO

M Girl

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Dear M Girl,

Some of my best friends don't like each other, so they talk about each other. I feel bad when I don't tell them and when I do tell them what they're saying. I don't want to be a bad friend, but I have know idea what to do.

Sincerely,

Liana (love1dddddd)

Hey Liana,

I totally know where you're coming from and it's a really awkward position to be in. When you're hanging out with your BFFs and they start talking about your other friends in an unkind way, don't be shy -- tell them it upsets you! If you don't say anything, they won't know how much it bothers you. If they get mad at you, remind them that they wouldn't want to be talked about like that! It's okay if all your friends aren't BFFs with each other, but they still should be polite! Hopefully after you have this conversation, your friends will stop. Otherwise, I don't think it's your duty to tell your friends what they're saying about each other.

I hope your situation gets better and let me know how it goes!

XOXO

M Girl

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Dear M,

I have these two crushes named Steven and Noah who are in band class with me. Steven and Noah are best friends so if one of them asked me out I don't want them to get mad and fight over me. Please help me figure out how I can avoid losing two friends over a love triangle!

Sincerely,
Lilly

Dear Lilly,

It's always complicated to have a crush on two guys, especially if they are best buds! Take your time in figuring out which boy you see yourself going out with. If you feel like you really can't decide, try to think about who you feel more comfortable with and who shares your favorite food, band and sports team. If Steven or Noah gets upset that you chose one over the other, let him down gently. Just explain that you really want to try taking your relationship to the next level with your crush and that you don't want them to fight over you. Strong friendships don't crumble under the pressures of a love triangle! When you tell him exactly wants on your mind, he won't jump to conclusions and get jealous. Instead, he will be understanding and be happy for your new relationship. Let me know how it goes!

XOXO,
M Girl

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Dear M Girl
,

I told my mom that I want to be an actress. She said that I should try to audition for acting roles. I love to act, but I get really bad stage fright and I'm really shy in front of people I don't know. What should I do to get started?

Sincerely,

Nataly

Hey Nataly!

I think it's great that your mom is supportive of your dream to be an actress! You can break out of your shell and learn more about acting by joining your school's drama club or auditioning for the next play. You'll learn all kinds of warm-ups, improv games, and skills that will help you get less nervous on stage. Besides giving you a chance to perform in front of people, joining theater activities in your school will help you find the perfect monologues for the type of parts you might want to audition for in the future! You won't be anxious about auditioning if you're well prepared! More importantly, remember to have fun and don't stress out about it! Keep me posted!

XOXO

M Girl

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Dear M Girl,

I have a guy friend whose name is Noah and we hang out all the time. The only problem is that we aren't in the same classes. I think he is kinda cute, and I have known him for 3 to 4 years, but I don't know if he likes me back. It's harder for me to talk to him now than it was then! When we're walking to the bus, he keeps on telling me to text him, but when I do, he doesn't answer. And like I said, I can't really talk to him at school! I need some help!

Thanks,


YouWillLuvNiall

Dear YouWillLuvNiall,

I know how frustrating it can be when you can't tell if your friend likes you as more than a friend. Since he doesn't text you back, ask him face-to-face why he doesn't respond to your messages. After all, he's the one who wanted you to text him in the first place! If you've had this conversation and he still doesn't answer your texts, don't text him and wait to see if you hear from him. If you don't feel the same about each other right now, don't get discouraged -- you never know what could happen in the future! Let me know how it goes!

XOXO

M Girl

Dear M Girl,
I have a guy friend named Lewis, we hang out all the time and we've known each other for three years now. We can act ourselves around each other and sometimes I get these really good feelings. But other times I don't think that he feels the same way. And everyone that comes up to me asks if I like him and I have heard stuff about him liking me, but I don't know if it's true. What should I do?
- Jaylaleigh08

Hey, Jaylaleigh08!

It sounds like you are definitely very confused about how to move forward from being friends to being more. Think back on your friendship and try to remember the good times you've had. Has he always been there for you? Does he go to you when he's bummed? Lewis may be feeling just as confused, so invite him for ice cream at the park so that you two can talk about why you might be ready to take the next step in a relationship. Hear what he has to say, and be upfront about your confused feelings. Once you two spill your feelings to each other, you can take it from there. It might be hard, but don't focus on what you hear around the halls -- to avoid any more confusion, talk to him face to face!

XOXO,
M Girl

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Dear M Girl,


I really need your help, I know this guy and he's basically my BGF (best guy friend). Last year we dated for a brief two weeks and my friend got mad at me and then there was a lot of drama! Anyway, he and I have been talking and stuff ever since we were forced to break up. He just asked me who I like and I told him I'd get back to him. Truth is... I like him! Where is this going? What should I do?


Thanks,


Pandaluber6

Hey Pandaluber6,

This is a tricky sitch! You need to remember that you and your BGF are good friends, but also keep in mind why you broke up after two weeks. Chat with your BGF about the breakup and ask him why he wanted to know who you like. He shouldn't lead you on if he doesn't want to try dating you again, but he could just be asking because you're close friends! Either way, talk to your BGF about the situation -- it's the only way you'll get a direct answer. You've already had the first awkward "do you like me?" convo, so this one will definitely be easier! By the end of the conversation, hopefully you'll know where your relationship is headed! Let me know how it goes!

XOXO

M Girl

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Dear M Girl,

I am having my 12th birthday party towards the end of September and I invited four of my closest guy friends. Anyway, the party will definitely have more girls than guys, so I don't know if I should add anything special to the party so the guys have fun, too. I'm going to put on some video games where you have to dance and maybe some where you have to sing. Do you think the guys at my party will still be entertained with the things there? I am worrying especially because one of the guys is my CRUSH!


Maya, 11 (Fuzzycat135
 )

Hey Maya,

First, I want to wish you a happy early birthday! I think it's great that you have close guy friends who you want at your party! You shouldn't worry about entertaining them though! They're not coming to your party for the games or the cake -- they're coming because they care about you and want to celebrate your special day with you! But since you mentioned it, interactive video games are great for parties with guys and girls! Everyone will definitely have a blast! Let me know how it goes!

XOXO

M Girl

Dear M Girl,

I'm almost 13 and I really want to start wearing makeup. I don't want to wear a lot -- I just want to start with a little. My mom and dad say I'm too young and I'm trying to convince them that I don't want to wear it for show, I want to wear it because it makes me feel nice. How do I convince my parents to let me wear makeup?

-Harrysmylesx3 AKA Amanda


Hey Amanda,

I know you want to wear makeup, but try putting yourself in your parents' shoes. It's really hard for them to realize that you're growing up! If they don't want you wearing makeup every day, ask your mom if she can help you put makeup on before big parties or special events. It would be a great compromise and a fun opportunity to bond with your mom! She'll show you how to put it on correctly and you won't end up looking like a scary clown! Keep in mind, though, that you don't need makeup to look nice, you're beautiful just the way you are! Let me know what your parents think!

XOXO


M Girl

Dear M Girl,

I'm starting high school soon and I'm really scared! I'm going to a school nobody I know is going to. Luckily there was a summer bridge thing and I got to meet two awesome friends there. I'm still really scared because I don't wanna lose touch with my friends from middle school like I did from elementary school. Should I try to change who I am so people will like me? I'm the shy quiet girl in the back of the class who nobody really knows. 
I don't know what to do! Please help!

-Daisy

Hey Daisy,

It's totally normal to be nervous about high school, especially if it's a new school! You can still be BFFs with people who don't go to your school! If you make the effort to see your middle school friends on the weekends, they'll make the effort to see you too! Don't feel like you have to change who you are to fit in with people from school, I'm sure you'll find friends who like you for being YOU (maybe those two friends you met over the summer?)! Good luck and let me know how your first day goes!

XOXO
M Girl